“All things are lawful unto me, but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful for me, but I will not be brought under the power of any” (I Cor. 6:12) Just because I have the right to do anything, does not mean that it is good for me to do these things!
Have you ever been told? “boy you better be careful, don’t you get that girl pregnant, you better wrap it up, and get pregnant if you want to.” Does any of this sound familiar to you? Of course it does. These are the things that you probably were told by your parents and you are possibly telling your children in reference to sex. The problem with these statements is that all of them are giving the child permission to engage in premarital sex. These are statements with no explanations. When advising a child about premarital sex, the main objective that you may want to instill in them is the reasons as to why they should not engage into premarital sex. In other words, tell them; no sex before marriage BECAUSE… Yes, explain to them why. I believe that if children understood the whys, we would have less children becoming sexually active before they are married. Listed below are some biblical and logical explanations and answers to your children when they ask you “why shouldn’t I have sex now:”
- Sex was designed by God for marriages between a man and woman only
- Premarital sex is a sin (all sex)
- Avoid STD’s
- Unwanted pregnancies
- Unwanted abortions
- Premature emotional bonding
- Heart break from failed relationship
- Sexual abuse from mate(s)
- Financial responsibility of children
- Single parenting
I’m pretty sure there are more reasons to include in this list, however, this is a good place to begin. Educate your children. If you love them, you will be truthful to them. Once you deliver the information into their hands, then they become empowered to make the right decision. Always let them know; just because they can, does not mean they should.
Sources: the Bible; Genesis 1:28, Genesis 2:18-25, I Cor. 6:18-25, I Cor. 6:12