The Makings of a Happy Couple!!! |

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19 January 2014
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relationshipSince it is the beginning of a new year, I have been think of ways to improve different aspects of my life in efforts to become the “Best ME.”  Last week I wrote about healthier eating,  this week I found an intriguing article regarding habits of happy couples. If you have ever contemplated switching up or trying new things to improve your relationship, I found an article very interesting. Dr. Mark Goulston wrote and article in Psychology Today stating that listening is the key. The following is his list of habits for happy couples:

1. Go to bed at the same time

Remember the beginning of your relationship, when you couldn’t wait to go to bed with each other to make love? Happy couples resist the temptation to go to bed at different times. They go to bed at the same time, even if one partner wakes up later to do things while their partner sleeps. And when their skins touch it still causes each of them to tingle and unless one or both are completely exhausted to feel sexually excited.

2. Cultivate common interests

After the passion settles down, it’s common to realize that you have few interests in common. But don’t minimize the importance of activities you can do together that you both enjoy. If common interests are not present, happy couples develop them. At the same time, be sure to cultivate interests of your own; this will make you more interesting to your mate and prevent you from appearing too dependent.

3. Walk hand in hand or side by side

Rather than one partner lagging or dragging behind the other, happy couples walk comfortably hand in hand or side by side. They know it’s more important to be with their partner than to see the sights along the way.

4. Make trust and forgiveness your default mode
If and when they have a disagreement or argument, and if they can’t resolve it, happy couples default to trusting and forgiving rather than distrusting and begrudging.

5. Focus more on what your partner does right than what he or she does wrong

If you look for things your partner does wrong, you can always find something. If you look for what he or she does right, you can always find something, too. It all depends on what you want to look for. Happy couples accentuate the positive.

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Thenessa, an LPC-Intern, is a graduate of the Masters of Arts in Professional Counseling program at Amberton University under the supervision of Megan R. Lee, LPC-S. Thenessa earned her Bachelor of Arts in Psychology with a minor in Biology from East Texas Baptist University in Marshall, Texas.

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3 responses on “The Makings of a Happy Couple!!!

  1. What a great article Thenessa! I plan on incorporating #9 Weather check! Hopefully, he won’t think there is an underlying need/want other than “how’s your day going?” It’s the little things, as a “Hi, I miss you!” text that makes my day, so I choose to make his brighter as well. Thank you for the list of ideas!

  2. Kavita says:

    Love this article!!! My husband and I already do most of these. I completely agree, it is so nice when my husband and I great each other with a good morning hug and kiss. It makes me start my day with a positive outlook.

  3. Tim Cox says:

    After reading this post, I now see why my wife and I go to bed at the same time. It is so strange sometimes how we find ourselves telling each other, “baby I going to bed now.” Sometimes I would question why my wife wants to wait for me before she goes to bed. Now it makes sense. I will leave well enough alone in that I can continue to have the makings of a happy couple!

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