Judgement Free Love

The Best Gift

Love is a universal feeling. Many people hide behind the word love to use it as manipulation and as a result it has lost meaning and value. What merits unconditional love? By definition unconditional means. We often hear people state that they want a love that is unconditional…a love that knows no boundaries, but what does that look like. Should I turn the other cheek when you are doing wrong? Do I sit back and allow you to become an addict? Maybe I should allow you to harm or disrespect me because that is what is unconditional. Also by definition unconditional love means caring about the happiness of another person without any thought for what we might get for ourselves In essence unconditional love can be very unhealthy for both parties. I am a firm believer that love should have conditions. I should love myself enough to show another person how to love me. Maybe we should ask for an judgement free love. This would be a love that has boundaries but not judgment. In essence, I will love you through whatever situation but I will also be your accountability partner. True love will not be blind. I cannot say that I love you and allow you to self-destruct. The bible talks about love in depth and I believe that this is the true definition of love without judgement. It reads:

Love suffereth long, and is kind; love envieth not; charity is not vain of itself, it is not puffed up,
Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;
When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.
KJV 1 Corinthians 13:4-13

In other words love can heal all as long as it is concrete kind of love; truthful, an honest. So the next times someone talks to you about unconditional love, just suggest a love that is free from judgement but wrapped in truth and see how it work out.

Today’s Love Dare

Toda's Love Dare

First Corinthians 13:4-6 states thatLove is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”

Love is a choice, not a feeling. Choose today to be committed to love even if your spouse has lost most of their interest in receiving it. Tell them ” I love you. Period. I choose to love you even if you don’t love me in return.” Love is a choice!

Love ME for ME

Love ME for ME

Do you love your child just the way they are? Are you a parent that builds their child up or is breaking their child down? Building your child up can be difficult if your parents did not model that for you. A lot of the times we will do what we saw our parents do. If you are finding yourself breaking your child’s spirit I want to urge you to give us a call. Every parent wants the best for their children, but if we don’t have the skills and the knowledge to provide positive parenting we can end up hurting our child in the end.

Here is an example that you can think about: you son spills his dinner drink almost every night. How do your respond? Do you yell, “You can’t get anything right! You are always making a mess! What is wrong with you?! Or do you say, “Everyone makes mistakes. Grab a rag and clean up”. Do you see the difference? One will tear a child down and make them feel like an invisible person while the other builds them up and lets them know that you love them just the way they are. If you feel that you fall in the first category please give me a call. I know it can be embarrassing, but we are not here to judge your situation but to help you! We offer a free 30 minute face to face consultation to see if we would be a good fit.


Love Listens

Few of us listen patiently. The way we communicate to our spouse reflects the condition of our heart. If we are angry because of unmet expectations then we tend to respond harshly. A lot of times in a conversation we listen to respond and not to understand. This should be our daily challenge. Try to demonstrate patience with your spouse by not saying anything negative to them, but really try to understand what they are trying to communicate to you. It is better to hold your tongue than to say something you will regret. The bible says in James 1:19, “Understand this: everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger”. If you are finding yourself not being able to hold in your anger give us a call!