1st Love 1st Hero





Fathers make all the difference in the world. They are so important in their children’s lives. As a dad you are chosen for a very special assignment.  Leadership from a father has tremendous positive effects like better school performance and better self-confidence. Kids learn by watching their dads. Do not allow work pressures or other commitments to take you away from your children. Make the time because it is so important.

Neglecting your role as a father has damaging consequences and produces spiritual damage. There is a reason that scriptures warn fathers not to exasperate their children in Ephesians 6:4. Another version says, “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord”.  In addition, scriptures warn father not to embitter their children either in Colossians 3:21. Do not provoke or aggravate your children because this will cause them to get discouraged. Take a moment and reflect on your relationship with your father. What did you need from him that he gave you? What about something that you needed but never received? How did his positive input help you succeed? What about the flip side of that? Answering these questions might reveal some truths for you.

Remember that you are chosen! You are chosen to be the ordinary dad who can alter history by loving your children and guiding them to put God first in their lives as you raise them. If you have struggled in the past with issues because of your own experiences with your father I highly recommend reading Kingdom Man by Tony Evans. Another great author is Kevin Leman who wrote What a Difference a Daddy Makes and Be the Dad She Needs You to Be.

The Best Gift

The Best Gift

Are you in a marriage where your spouse has either walked away from the Lord or never knew him? I was the unbelieving partner when I first met my husband. So how did I get to the point where I am now? Today, I love the Lord with all of my heart, soul, and mind. I know that prayer had a lot to do with it. Let me explain. The awesome thing about God is that we have access to him through Christ.  Scripture tells us that if we ask it shall be given to us (Matthew 7:7) and if we ask in His name He will do it for us (John 14:14).  When you pray believe that God will answer you because the Bible says that whatever things you ask when you pray, believe that you receive them, and you will have them (Mark 11:24).  You should also give thanks to God for hearing and answering your prayers. Pray that the Lord will help you to be an uplifting example for your spouse.  Ask God to give you “the mind of Christ” (1 Corinthians 2:16 & Philippians 2:5) so that your actions will represent the Lord and your influence will be a holy one. 

Remember that Peter instructed Christian wives to witness to their unbelieving husbands through their righteous lifestyle and behavior (1 Peter 3:1-4). This can be said vice versa. We all try to take our spouse and put them in a box that they don’t always fit in like trying to fit a square into a circle, failing to realize that the only one who can change them is God. Forcing Christ on someone will never cause them to give their lives to Him, but praying for them and being the example of love that represents Christ will. I knew that my husband prayed for me. He also witnessed to me by representing what it meant to be a man of God. It was the presence of the Holy Spirit that drew me close to Christ through my husband, and made me the wife I am today. If you are praying for your spouse to please you and make you happy, try praying for your spouse to please God and watch what happens. The most precious gift you can give someone you love is the prayer that God will draw them close to Him. As you continue to pray without ceasing for your spouse also become a true representative of Christ. It is the love of Christ that draws men to Him. 






Be encouraged and understand that you are loved unconditionally by your Creator. Read and meditate on the following scriptures:

I am a MASTERPIECE created in Christ Jesus in order to walk in the good works He has prepared for me to do (Ephesians 1:13-14)

No matter my past, I AM FORGIVEN of my sins because of the lavishness of His grace upon me (Ephesians 1:7)

I AM A BRAND NEW person. My old sin nature has passed away, and everything has become brand new (2 Corinthians 5:17)

Because He was wounded, I am HEALED (Isaiah 53:5)

The joy of the Lord is my STRENGTH (Nehemiah 8:10)

I can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens me (Philippians 4:13)

I am the RIGHTEOUSNESS of God in Christ Jesus (2 Corinthians 5:21)

I have been given VICTORY in Christ Jesus (1 Corinthians 15:57)

I walk by FAITH and not by sight (2 Corinthians 5:7)