1st Love 1st Hero

1ST HERO 1ST LOVE

DAD:

A SON’S FIRST HERO

A DAUGHTERS FIRST LOVE

Fathers make all the difference in the world. They are so important in their children’s lives. As a dad you are chosen for a very special assignment.  Leadership from a father has tremendous positive effects like better school performance and better self-confidence. Kids learn by watching their dads. Do not allow work pressures or other commitments to take you away from your children. Make the time because it is so important.

Neglecting your role as a father has damaging consequences and produces spiritual damage. There is a reason that scriptures warn fathers not to exasperate their children in Ephesians 6:4. Another version says, “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord”.  In addition, scriptures warn father not to embitter their children either in Colossians 3:21. Do not provoke or aggravate your children because this will cause them to get discouraged. Take a moment and reflect on your relationship with your father. What did you need from him that he gave you? What about something that you needed but never received? How did his positive input help you succeed? What about the flip side of that? Answering these questions might reveal some truths for you.

Remember that you are chosen! You are chosen to be the ordinary dad who can alter history by loving your children and guiding them to put God first in their lives as you raise them. If you have struggled in the past with issues because of your own experiences with your father I highly recommend reading Kingdom Man by Tony Evans. Another great author is Kevin Leman who wrote What a Difference a Daddy Makes and Be the Dad She Needs You to Be.

What Are Little Girls REALLY Made Of?

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Every time I see a little girl, I find myself commenting on their cuteness and sweetness. “Oh, you have a pretty little dress on!”, “You are so cute!” “Look at those shoes!” “Those pigtails are adorable!!” Are these comments only solidifying the image-obsessed world we live in? Do we only notice our little girls for how cute they are and not for who they are or who and what they may become?  After all, our little girls are more than sugar and spice, so much more than how they look or what they are wearing. With so many little ones growing into women who base their self-worth and happiness on how beautiful they are, it seems we must start out young teaching our little girls (and little boys!) that a lady is so much more than the cute hair bows they wear and their baby doll faces.

  1. If you must compliment….

Compliment on their energy and good deeds too. Tell them how smart, strong or brave they are or how well they listen. Let them know you notice them sharing and helping their friends. If you must compliment on their cute clothes (because after all little kids clothes are adorable!), find a way to point out the color of their shirt or the image on the outfit. See if they can name the colors or  images on the shirt and compliment on how much they know.

  1. Be careful of your words!

Children soak up everything we say. We have to be mindful how we talk about our own self-image. Are we labeling ourselves “bad” for eating a piece of cake? And only “good” when we eat green leaves? Words are powerful!  Words can empower or shame. Be careful how you use your words.