De-Stressing Your Holiday Season

Bear Lights ScarfMany of us are excited and ready to enjoy the holiday season. However, many people are dealing with family disharmony or grief over the loss of a loved one. Those people often deal with stress and depression during the holidays. Most of us are focused on what we are “required” to buy everyone and the pending debt that comes from keeping up with the Joneses.

To help you to cope with some of your holiday stress and depression read the following suggestions:

Remember that Jesus is the reason for the season, not Apple, Android, Windows, etc.

Set realistic goals for the season. Commit to only what you can do or buy without stretching yourself too thin or going into debt. Prioritize.

Stretch out your holiday visits and activities. Alternate the years that you will travel to visit family members with staying home and having a more relaxing holiday with your immediate family. (Personal Note: This year I prepared the whole Thanksgiving dinner the day before so that everything only had to be warmed up on the actual day. My family said it was the best Thanksgiving we’ve had in years because I was able to watch TV and play games with them instead of cooking all day!)

Be grateful for the blessings you have. Don’t focus on the “the good ole’ days.” Volunteer and do something for someone else.

Start a new tradition or way to remember someone special that was lost.

Have fun doing free activities.   For example, drive around to look at over the top Christmas decorations. Many neighborhoods have contests and some people just like to do it up every year!

Enjoy the holiday season and be blessed!

Megan R. Lee, LPC-S

Clinical Director of Family First Counseling

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Megan’s Divorce Rant

I love my job as a marriage counselor and praise God everyday for being able to do it. One of the downsides of my life’s work is dealing with divorce or pending divorce. Divorce is a destructive force with a root of selfishness and immaturity. Marriage is not about two separate people taking care of their own agendas. It hurts God, it hurts your children ( even adult ones), the family and the church. A bad childhood and bad relationships are not an excuse to treat someone badly. According to various clients justifiable reasons include: boredom, sexual incompatibility, pornography, financial selfishness, missing an ex, emotional affairs I can go on. Everyone of those “reasons” is about selfishness and immaturity. The children affected by this always wonder why can’t adults be nice or considerate like they are told to be. Adults be adult. If you are facing issues in your marriage don’t wait until the last minute to get help, don’t look outside your marriage, don’t start “alternative” lifestyles. Go to a professional, a minister, a mentor couple, a group, something and get help. Pray together about improving your marriage. And when God sends you the help you need, grow up and listen! Stop making things harder than they have to be. Leaving usually does nothing but spread the passion, selfishness and immaturity. Little will change in your new relationship. Why? Because without God and other interventions you are still you and likely to carry the same destruction and insecurity with you.

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