Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

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We are republishing this post on PTSD.  We have the privilege of having two veterans on our staff.  Ms. Vernesa Perry and Mr. Timothy Cox.  Thank You for your service.

Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Personal accounts concerning traumatic events showed that those with post-traumatic stress disorder recurrently re-experience the traumatic incident; evade others, situations, or thoughts connected with the incident; and have symptoms of undue emotions (Baldwin, 2011). A traumatic experience is a life threatening incident such as a natural catastrophe, military warfare, serious accidents, terrorist incidents, or sexual or physical assault in childhood life or adult life. Some of survivors of traumatic events sometimes return to ordinary activities within little time. On the other hand, some individuals may have stress reactions that do not go away on their own, which might even get worse after a while. As a matter of fact, post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a psychiatric diagnosis that is familiar amongst those who have lived through horrendous events; the central diagnostic characteristics are memory distortions (Nader, 2010).

Traumatic experiences may entail a single incident, or a continuing or repetitive incident or incidents that may fully devastate someone’s capability to handle certain feelings involved with that event. Traumatic events and tragedies can happen unintentionally, intentionally, naturally, or be repeated several times. Each one of these tragedies are either a single or long-term occurrence, and it may be psychologically, physically, and emotionally overwhelming.  However, different individuals will respond in a different way to the same tragedies. One individual might believe an event to be distressing while another individual may not go through trauma as a consequence of the same tragedy. In other words, not everyone who goes through or witness a traumatic incident will turn out to be traumatized psychologically.

Treatment for post-traumatic stress disorder might help alleviate symptoms by helping you to handle the traumatic event you have gone through. Instead of evading the event and any memories of it, you are encouraged in treatment to recollect and deal with the sensations and emotions you experienced at the time of the initial event. On top of offering an exit for emotions you have been bottling up, treatment for post-traumatic stress disorder will furthermore aid in restoring your feelings of self-control and decrease the authoritative grasp your memory has on your life.

Cognitive behavioral therapy is a type of psychotherapeutic treatment that helps people understand their feelings and thoughts that influence their behavior.  Cognitive behavioral therapy can consist of:

* Exposure therapy – Helps people face and control their fear. It exposes them to the trauma that they experienced in a safe way.

* Cognitive restructuring – Helps people make sense of the terrible memories. Sometimes people remember events in a different way than how they really happened. They might feel shameful or guilty about what is not their fault.

* Stress inoculation training – Reduces PTSD symptoms by teaching a person how to reduce their anxiety.

 It may be very hard to take that first step to help yourself. It is important to realize that although it may take some time, with treatment, you can get better.

“Be healed, be delivered, and be set free.”

LaTrina graduated in 2009 from American InterContinental University with a Bachelor of Science in Criminal Justice with a concentration in forensics. In 2011 she earned her Masters of Arts degree in Forensic Psychology, as well as a certificate in Applied Forensics from the Chicago School of Professional Psychology.

Happiness

secretofhappinessWhile people have many and varied goals that they pursue, there is an almost universal underlying goal to virtually all pursuits: the goal to be happy. People who spend a lot of time making money generally do so because they believe that the money itself will make them happy, or will guard them against things that will make them unhappy.We judge everything in our life in terms of how it relates to our happiness. We hear people say countless times: ‘do what makes you happy’, ‘we wish you a happy life’, ‘your happiness is most important’. The key to finding true happiness starts with finding out what makes you feel the happiest. The basis of all happiness starts with your feelings. There are all kinds of reasons to be happy. It feels good and makes for a more enjoyable journey through life. If you have been searching outside yourself for happiness, you’ve been going about this is all wrong.  Happiness is a choice we make, independent of the circumstances of our lives. My thought on happiness is that it is a choice I make daily, no matter my circumstances. Life does not come with a guarantee that everything will be perfect and go your way. In my opinion it is the trials and tribulations that you go through that transform you into greatness and a happy person. What are your thoughts on happiness?

Honesty is the Best Policy

honesty and lies

There is an old saying that we should always tell the truth because that way we do not have to remember what we said. It has been said that honesty is the best policy. This is especially true within the bonds of a relationship. People deserve to know where they stand with one another and on a deeper level being truthful is a form of respect for each person, letting them experience real emotions and feelings towards their partner and the difficult trials and tribulations faced throughout life.Honesty is a virtue. For some people, being honest is not that easy and such people might find themselves lying almost every day. Honesty is the best policy because no matter how good you are at telling lies, the truth will always come out. Honesty and truth can, on occasion, be hard. Sometimes we do not tell the truth because we don’t want to hurt the other person’s feelings. Sometimes we just don’t see the value in being honest: it’s not worth the effort – the person you’re talking to doesn’t want to hear the truth. Other times we do not feel it is safe to tell the truth – do not hurt the messenger and as is often the case, we don’t know how to discuss the “un-discussable.” While these lies may seem harmless and even deter a confrontation at the time, they are a slippery slope. Once a lie is told, the upkeep can be more work than the worth of the lie itself and if the partner finds out they will be more upset about being told the lie, than the understanding of the justification made at the time.

His Sister Hates ME!

I recently had a conversation with a friend about her boyfriend and his sister- this is how it went from her to me:

I have been dating my boyfriend for two plus years now, I am in love with him and I cannot see myself dating or with any one else. I feel, as does he, we have a connection, when I am thinking about him, within seconds he is calling and it is the same with him, when he is thinking of me I either call or text. (Here is where I stopped and asked her if she knows if he loves her, she says yes). From the beginning of the relationship neither one of them were looking to get into a relationship or be serious with anyone, but according to her things grew and with ease they decided to be in a committed relationship. From her account about three months had went by before the commitment. During that period his sister made contact with her and introduce herself and said if you like him then go for it. Several months after that she said the sister notice things were getting serious and from that point on she started hating her and doing mean and childish things to her. Things like hiding her phone, shoes and anything that is hers. She will put her things in the garage, throw her food away, call her names, ask her brother when is this girl leaving, (both brother and sister live together). make threats, hit her, etc. During the course of all of this happening the brother did not see or did not want to admit to what was happening until his sister hit her. She says even after that his sister shouts out how much she hates her to him and to everyone. She said it got to the point that his sister’s friends are disowning her for what she is doing and how she is treating her. Now a few months ago her and her boyfriend went looking at rings, I said to her are you happy. She says with him yes, but his family she said she was not happy with.

This is why my last few post have been about marriage, should she or should she not?

 

 

Love, Live and Enjoy Life

Love, Live and Enjoy LifeIt is not hard to find someone who tells you they love you; it’s hard to find someone who actually means it.  But you will find them eventually, so don’t rush love, and don’t settle.  Find someone who isn’t afraid to admit they miss you.  Someone who knows you’re not perfect, but appreciates you as you are; one who gives their heart completely. Someone who says, “I love you” and then proves it day in and day out.  Find someone who wouldn’t mind waking up with you in the morning, seeing your wrinkles and grey hair, and then falls in love with you all over again. Remember, to the people who truly love you, you are magnificent already.  This is not because they are blind to your shortcomings, but because they so vividly see the beauty of your soul.  Your shortcomings then dim by comparison.  The people who care about you are willing to let you be imperfect and magnificent, at the same time.

Do not put the only keys to your growth and happiness in someone else’s pocket. Relationships are not about authority and obedience; they’re agreements of love and respect.  You simply can’t live your entire life through someone else’s fantasies.  There must be compromise and the space to do what’s right for you, even if someone you care about disagrees. Give, but don’t allow yourself to be used.  Listen to loved ones, but don’t lose track of your inner voice in the process. Never apologize for what you feel and what you don’t feel; that’s a betrayal of your truth. No matter how much advice people give you, sometimes you have to feel things out for yourself, make decisions on your own, experience things firsthand, and build your own conclusions from the ground up the old fashion way. Never let anyone or anything get in the way of your joy.  Live a life that sizzles and pops and makes you laugh out loud every day, because you don’t want to get to the end, or to tomorrow, even, and realize that your life is a collection of meetings and “someday’s” and errands and receipts and empty promises. So go ahead and sing out loud in the car with the windows down, and dance in your living room, and stay up all night laughing, and paint your walls any color you want, and enjoy some port wine and chocolate cake.  Yes, and go ahead and sleep in on clean white sheets, and throw parties, and paint, and write poetry, and read books so good they make you lose track of time and just keep living and laughing and making God glad that he gave life to someone who loves and cherishes the gift.

Marrying for Love or Money

Marrying for Love or MoneyA happy, fulfilling, and successful marriage is supposed to be lifetime where the couple grows together in loving, understanding and caring for each other. Likewise, ideally, they learn from each other and reciprocate each other’s needs and simultaneously progress in their pursuit to achieve their mutual dreams.
Which do you prefer, to marry an already very rich prospect without love or to marry the love of your life where you both can build your future together. It is important to have financial stability, but if you marry for money, you will only think you are in love instead of marrying when you know you are in love. Be honest with yourself about your thoughts and fears about money. Once you know where your thoughts and ideas come from, you can have better communication with your partner about how being unemployed will affect your choices together. Even if you are both working now, it does not hurt to see how the two of you would handle the situation. If it does not work out, you know your intentions and expectations were pure from the start. There are no guarantees in life either way neither love nor money will guarantee and successful happy marriage it is commitment, communication, trust and hope.