Control

control

Treat others the same way you want them to treat you (Luke 6:31)

There are some things that we can control, and some things that are just out of our control. The things that we have control over are our words, actions, ideas, efforts, and behavior. Things that we do not have control over are other people’s actions and words. We also have not control over other people’s feelings, behavior, or ideas. Regardless of what other people say to you choose to respond to them the way you want to be treated. It is not about them, but about you and your character. Do not break your integrity when others choose to be ignorant or disrespectful. If you do they win. Treat others the way you want to be treated is and has been the golden rule for a long time, we just don’t put it into practice too often. The pebble, dropped in a pool, can make ripples to the furthest shore.

The way to happiness
is made much brighter by
applying the precept, “Try to treat
others as you would want them
to treat you.”

Be Kind to Yourself in Your Self-talk

self talk What do you say to yourself when you make a mistake? What do you say to yourself when you succeed? The words you tell yourself are powerful. When you give yourself unrealistic goals (such as perfectionism), you set yourself up for failure. When you talk to yourself with kindness, you give yourself the same kind of love you would want from others. When all of your self talk is filled with “musts” and “shoulds”: I have to get strait As or I am a failure…I should have a beautiful Pinterest-worthy meal on the table for my family every night…I am too selfish…. You are setting yourself up for depression and anxiety. A better way to talk to yourself is with patience and kindness: I would like to get strait As, but the occasional B won’t ruin my future…I would like to be a great cook, but the family will survive on ordinary food…I am only human and sometimes I have to look out for my own needs….Talking to yourself this way leads to self-acceptance. Do unto yourself as you would do unto others! You most likely wouldn’t be so critical of your kids…or a friend…or a stranger. Don’t be so critical of yourself! Loving yourself brings peace and less stress.