Labor Day!!!

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Labor Day is the day that we celebrate working…..yay!!! I suppose it is yay in the context that you have a job….especially if you need a job. Preparing a big feast….(this is usually our last bar-b-que of the year) is a lot of work….but hey, it beats being at the office. I do love that we watch the U.S. Open as a family…team Serena all the way. So enjoy celebrating working and don’t forget…..no white after Labor Day….lol!!!

Pet Therapy: An Effective Drug

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Are you searching for the miracle pill to lower anxiety, depression, stress, etc?  If so, look no further than your man’s (or woman’s) best friend.  In the past few years, there has been tremendous research done on pet therapy and one’s health – emotional, mental, physical and spiritual.  Pet Partners, a nonprofit animal-assisted program, lists multiple benefits that pets can have for children, adults, seniors and families.  Below is a list from their website, www.petpartners.org, to show the impact of owning a pet.

Children:

– Increase in self-esteem.

– Teaches responsibility and respect towards other living beings.

– Increase with involvement in activities: sports, hobbies, clubs and/or chores.

– Increase in treatment procedures if suffering from an ailment.

Adults:

– Decrease in blood pressure.

– Decrease in anxiety and stress levels.

– Teaches nurturing and parenthood.

– An abundance of snuggles, laughter and unconditional love.

Seniors:

– Brings new meaning and purpose to life.

– Decrease in doctor visits for minor health issues.

– Decrease in blood pressure and cholesterol.

– Increase in motivation to engage in daily activities and socialization.

Families:

– Touches the lives of all generations.

– Cheers up the stressed and tired parents.

– Excellent companion for child(ren).

 

Having thoughts of getting a pet?  Do your research to find out which pet best fits your life style.  Also, may I suggest obtaining your new pet from your local animal shelter.  There are plenty that need a new home, hopefully yours!  As for me, we have two golden retrievers, Ozzie and Leo, that have made our family complete.  Blessings to your health and family (including fur babies)!

The Importance of a Father

The Importance of a Father.

A father is the most important person in a girl’s life. He is the one that shows her how a man is supposed to treat, love and provide for her. Every girl wants to feel so secure and loved in such a way they can tell a boy, ” If you hurt me I am  going to tell my DADDY!” So why is so many girls growing up with absent fathers? I think this generation of fathers did not grow up with a father of their own, so they don’t understand how to become one.

For too many years women have had to be both mother and father to their children. How can we change the pattern of behavior so we have great fathers for our children. We can start by having real men mentor our young males. As women, we will go above and beyond the call of duty to care for our children, but we can’t teach a boy how to become a man. We have to allow our boys to be mentored by strong men that will lead and guide them in the right direction. If you don’t have a positive man in your life for your son, try getting into a good church or organization  that has a mentoring program.

Once a boy becomes a man, he takes on the responsibility in caring for his family. He understands that he is not only the most important person in his family or daughter’s life, but he is now teaching his son how to become a man by being present in his life.

Daughter’s need men to teach them how to love and respect themselves. It can help them with loving themselves and not allowing a man to manipulate them. If we want your daughters to have a  good father in her life, we first have to love and respect ourselves. We can not expect a man to love us if we don’t love and cherish ourselves.

No Perfect Parent

No Perfect Parent

Recently I learned about four parenting styles. I want to share them with you so you can reflect on how your parenting approach may be contributing to the problem of getting your child to obey. First I want to start off with the permissive parent. If you fit in the category you are a parent that offers lots of love but not much discipline. This can cause your child to have very low self esteem. When there are no boundaries your child feel inferior and insecure. Your child will feel loved but they are unsure of their limits.

The neglectful parent is the worst of all four. This type of parent does not offer much love or discipline leading the child to grow up with deep emotional scars. The authoritarian parent does not express much love but is very big on discipline. Children to these parents grow up rebellious. The last parenting style is the authoritative parent. This type of style provides the best combination of love and discipline. Their boundaries are clear and they are also very loving. This child grows up with great self-esteem and has great coping skill.

Where do you fit with these parenting styles? If you find yourself in one that you are not proud of please give us a call. We would love to work with you and your family to get you learn how to be an authoritative parent.

Financial Fasting

Financial Fasting

We are just a few weeks into the new year and most of us are trying to recover from all of the Christmas spending. I was reading an article in the Washington Post by the columnist and now author of the 21 Day Financial Fast, Michelle Singletary. Ms. Singletary spoke about how people want to lose weight in the new year but never think about getting their finances in order. This 21 day financial fast is not going to get you out of debt, but will help your re-examine your spending habits. During the 21 day financial fast, you should avoid using your credit cards, going out to restaurants and shopping. The only time you should spend money during these three weeks is for paying bills, grocery shopping and paying for the basic necessity. This will teach you how to keep count of your money.

It is also important to have an accountable partner. If you are married or in a committed relationship, it is important that you work together during this fast. Money is one of the top reason why relationships end. If you are needing assistance with getting your finances in order or you are having trouble in your relationship, give me a call. I would love to assist you.

Lets start the new year off right!!!  Are you ready???

Surviving Christmas as the Non-Custodial Parent

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Christmas can be the most difficult time of the year to be without your child. Seeing all of the Christmas decorations and Santa’s in the malls, kids running around being festive about the holiday season can leave you feeling overwhelmed and depressed. Every parent wants to see their child wake up Christmas morning to open their gifts, so what can you do if your child will be with their other parent?

My first year was very difficult without my son, but since then I have learned three key things that have help me deal with this transition.

1. Celebrate Christmas early or late.

My son taught me that the date is not as important as the time spent at home. This year we had Christmas early. We plan a day when he was able to wake up early in the morning and open all of his gifts. He had all of his favorite meals and we played all day with his new toys. If you were not able to celebrate early, it’s okay to plan something for your child when they return home. It’s never too late to celebrate.

2. Volunteer.

It is exciting to put a smile on someone else’s face. There are so many people who don’t have anyone in their life to care for them, or have lost a love one and the holiday season can be extremely difficult for them to get through. You can start be contacting your local shelter, senior citizen homes or church. It always great to give back to those in need.

3. Pamper yourself.

Don’t be afraid to take time out for yourself. You can treat yourself to massage,  manicure or pedicure. Go see a movie that you been waiting to come out. If you not able to spend a lot of money, stay home and fix your favorite meal, watch your favorite program or sit quietly and listing to some music or read a book.

You have to find time to fine tune yourself so you can be a better person to yourself and your love ones.