Influence of the Father

Influence of the Father

I had the privilege of attending a seminar about the influence of the Father.  The speaker was talking about the influence of our Earthly and Heavenly Father.  The speaker encouraged the attendees to write a list describing our earthly father (i.e. dad); then the speaker asked us to write another list describing our relationship with our heavenly father (i.e. God).  He encouraged us to really take time to think about each and resist the temptation to write what we know others expect to hear from us.

I was amazed at the similarities in my list.  I certainly used different words to describe the relationships of each; however there was a common theme among these lists.  It made me begin to think about how much influence does our relationship with our fathers and men on earth influence our perception of God.

If our earthly father tended to be gentle, caring and loving, are we more readily able to accept and believe in God’s gift of love, forgiveness, mercy, and grace?

If our earthly father tended to be critical, harsh, and strict, do we see God as our accuser ready to send us to Hell?

If our earthly father is absent, do we readily believe God loves us and will never leave us?

Much of the literature will say that our relationships and attachment with our parental figures does impact our sense of self and relationships with others so it doesn’t seem like a large leap that it would also influence our relationship with The Father, Our God.

My hope and belief is that if we have a negative perception of God and can change our perception of God, this would significantly impact all our other relationships, including our relationship with our self.  I would encourage you to create the same list as I created at the seminar; notice if there are any themes. Then search the Bible to find evidence of how God truly is.  Write those verses down and use them as a daily reminder.

Kids Don’t Come With An Instruction Manual

KidsDon'tComeWithAnInstructionManual

A friend and I were talking and she told me, “I hate when people say Kids don’t come with an instruction manual.”  She went on to explain that as a Christian we should never say this statement because we have the Bible.  I must humbly admit as a Christian that I have thought and said that exact statement to parents.  After speaking with my friend, I got to thinking about just exactly  what does the Bible say about parenting.  I did some intentional study of God’s Word, and what I discovered is that the Bible has a whole lot to say about parenting!  Although the Bible does not outline what to do in every situation a parent may face, God does  give parents a framework of guiding principles.

Teach Your Children Moral and Ethical Principles about Life — Be sure you are equipping your children with a moral and ethical code when you send them off into the world!

Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.

Proverbs 22:6

Encourage Your Children — Don’t be the parent who is too hard to satisfied!

Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.

Colossians 3:21

As a father shows compassion to his children, so the Lord shows compassion to those who fear him.

Psalm 103:13

Discipline Your Children — Don’t be afraid to set up rules and limits; it is in their best interest!

A rod and a reprimand impart wisdom, but a child left undisciplined disgraces its mother.

Proverbs 29:15

Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

Ephesians 6:4

Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child, but the rod of correction will drive it far from him.

Proverbs 22:15

 Correct your son, and he will give you rest; yes, he will give delight to your soul.

Proverbs 29:17

He must manage his own household well, with all dignity keeping his children submissive…”

1 Timothy 3:4

Teach Your Children about the Bible and to Love God — Prioritize developing your child’s spiritual growth!

We will not hide them from their children, but tell to the coming generation the glorious deeds of the Lord, and his might, and the wonders that he has done.

Psalm 78:4

 Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength.  These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts.  Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.  Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads.  Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.

Deuteronomy 6:5-9

…and how from infancy you have known the Holy Scriptures, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus.   All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the servant of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.

2 Timothy 3:15-17

First Love

firstlove

firstlove

Last year around this time I attended a seminar, “The Forgotten First Love,” by Heather Lindsey.  She spoke about how we often forget that when we accept God as our Lord and Savior, we said a spiritual “I do!”  She reminded us that our first love (whether we are married or not) is to Jesus Christ.  We often forget our first love because we thirst for an earthly love.  And, of course, nothing is wrong with that because God is love, and He created love and our desire to have love and companionship.  She reminded the single ladies that the waiting time is preparation for becoming ready for our earthly soul mate.  In this waiting season, if we are not able to fully commit to God, then we will do the same with our earthly soul mate.  We will only give our earthly soul mate part of our day, heart, and time because we haven’t learned to surrender to our first love, God.

Remember, Someone is very much in love with you.  Take heart that He has not forgotten about you even if you forget about Him!!