Influence of the Father

Influence of the Father

I had the privilege of attending a seminar about the influence of the Father.  The speaker was talking about the influence of our Earthly and Heavenly Father.  The speaker encouraged the attendees to write a list describing our earthly father (i.e. dad); then the speaker asked us to write another list describing our relationship with our heavenly father (i.e. God).  He encouraged us to really take time to think about each and resist the temptation to write what we know others expect to hear from us.

I was amazed at the similarities in my list.  I certainly used different words to describe the relationships of each; however there was a common theme among these lists.  It made me begin to think about how much influence does our relationship with our fathers and men on earth influence our perception of God.

If our earthly father tended to be gentle, caring and loving, are we more readily able to accept and believe in God’s gift of love, forgiveness, mercy, and grace?

If our earthly father tended to be critical, harsh, and strict, do we see God as our accuser ready to send us to Hell?

If our earthly father is absent, do we readily believe God loves us and will never leave us?

Much of the literature will say that our relationships and attachment with our parental figures does impact our sense of self and relationships with others so it doesn’t seem like a large leap that it would also influence our relationship with The Father, Our God.

My hope and belief is that if we have a negative perception of God and can change our perception of God, this would significantly impact all our other relationships, including our relationship with our self.  I would encourage you to create the same list as I created at the seminar; notice if there are any themes. Then search the Bible to find evidence of how God truly is.  Write those verses down and use them as a daily reminder.

1st Love 1st Hero

1ST HERO 1ST LOVE

DAD:

A SON’S FIRST HERO

A DAUGHTERS FIRST LOVE

Fathers make all the difference in the world. They are so important in their children’s lives. As a dad you are chosen for a very special assignment.  Leadership from a father has tremendous positive effects like better school performance and better self-confidence. Kids learn by watching their dads. Do not allow work pressures or other commitments to take you away from your children. Make the time because it is so important.

Neglecting your role as a father has damaging consequences and produces spiritual damage. There is a reason that scriptures warn fathers not to exasperate their children in Ephesians 6:4. Another version says, “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord”.  In addition, scriptures warn father not to embitter their children either in Colossians 3:21. Do not provoke or aggravate your children because this will cause them to get discouraged. Take a moment and reflect on your relationship with your father. What did you need from him that he gave you? What about something that you needed but never received? How did his positive input help you succeed? What about the flip side of that? Answering these questions might reveal some truths for you.

Remember that you are chosen! You are chosen to be the ordinary dad who can alter history by loving your children and guiding them to put God first in their lives as you raise them. If you have struggled in the past with issues because of your own experiences with your father I highly recommend reading Kingdom Man by Tony Evans. Another great author is Kevin Leman who wrote What a Difference a Daddy Makes and Be the Dad She Needs You to Be.