Declaration for the Day

Declaration for the Day

One of my girlfriend’s shared this declaration with me and I couldn’t pass up the opportunity to share with you all!!

“I DECLARE I will speak only positive words of faith and victory over myself, my family, and my future.  I will not use my words to describe the situation.  I will use my words to change my situation.  I will call in favor, good breaks, healing, and restoration.  I will not talk to God about how big my problems are.  I will talk to my problems about how big my God is.  This is my declaration.”

Save this somewhere — on your phone, fridge, mirror, computer, calendar, journal — and when you feel discouraged, pull it out and say it aloud.  I hope it will encourage your spirit as it has mine!

Stop Trying to Change Your Man

Stop Trying to Change Your Man

I was listening to a video devotional about Decoding the Silent Man’s Language.  At the end of the devotional, the speaker said, “The only time a woman can change a man is when he is wearing diapers”.  This comment tickled me but there is some truth to it!  Of course, I’m not saying that your man or my man or whoever’s man may not need to make some changes, but I do agree we (women) are not going to make him change.  Now there is a difference between a man who needs to tweak some things and a man who you just have no business being with in the first place.  Leave that man alone!  But if you have a good man who may only have some rough edges, I am encouraging myself, my friends, my family, and you to stop complaining and nagging your man to make changes.  Put a pause on discouraging him (taking courage out of your man) and increase your words of encouragement (putting courage in).  So Ladies, let’s stop trying to change our man. Let God, his mentor, prayer, accountability partner, time, and emotional and spiritual growth develop so that the changes he needs to make become clear to him, and he earnestly seeks to make those changes for you and him.

It’s Okay to Say No


Do you find your lips saying yes, even though your heart and thoughts are no?  Maybe you are afraid to disappoint your friend if you don’t show up?  Maybe you don’t want to look incompetent if you tell your boss you are not able to take on another responsibility, client, or project?  Maybe you don’t want to feel judged or feel guilty if you can’t participate on a ministry at church or volunteer at your child’s school event?  Whatever the reason may be, you find yourself saying YES when deep down you really want to say NO.  Taking on more than you want or can handle can have serious consequences (physical and emotional stress), but it can also get in the way of your priorities.  If you become overwhelmed because you have too much on your plate, you will not do anything well, even the important stuff.  By beginning to say “no,” you will be setting a boundary to protect yourself from burnout, and helping to take care of yourself.

Challenge yourself for the next 30 days to say “no” more often.  You can begin by practicing to say NO out loud so that when the opportunity presents itself, you will feel more natural and comfortable saying it. It’s okay to simply say “no,” but if you aren’t quite ready to only say “no”, these are some examples that you can practice.

  1. That sounds amazing, but I really can’t.
  2. Thank you for thinking of me, I’m flattered. I’m not able to fit that in my schedule right now.
  3. I won’t be able to give the time needed to it.
  4. I’m not taking on anything else at this time.
  5. No thanks. I have another obligation.
  6. No thanks. That’s really not my thing.
  7. I am practicing limiting my commitments.
  8. I’m not in a place where I can take on that type of commitment.
  9. I know I’ve volunteered in the past, but I’ve decided not to volunteer this year.
  10. I had so much fun last year but I’m not able to make it this year.


Dreams Left Behind

Forgive Yourself

Part 3 in the series on understanding procrastination.  Part of the process of ending procrastination is gaining understanding in the reasons why we put things off.  Fear of failure and fear of rejection (closed doors) can be powerful players in the realm of putting things off.  Knowing and accepting that failure and imperfection is part of life and part of the process of reaching our goals is key to persevering.

Megan’s Leap List 2015

I learned about Leap Lists last year and decided to do one yearly ending on my birthday.  I did this last year and was somewhat successful. What I did find out is that I need support to keep them in mind.  So I will be trying to recruit my friends and family to write a leap list, that way we can support each other.  Read last year’s list and the concept of leap lists here.

My list for this year will include some things from last year, that I still want to do, in red.  I’m not discouraged because as long as I have a goal, I am growing and learning.

Leap List Things To Do Before the End of This Year When I Turn 43.

1. Read the Bible and/or a devotion every day of this year, even holidays, special events, etc.

2. Make a tangible $24,000 that I can actually see, not going right back into the business.

3. Attend a conference out of state that has something to do with my profession.

4. Teach at least 4 premarital or marriage enrichment groups.

5. Go to Europe to visit my beautiful daughter while she studies abroad this semester. *With the whole family.

6. Lose a minimum of 40lbs.

7. Plan a conference for and about minority mental health.

8. Serve on a non-profit board in some capacity.

9. Grow my hair back out.

10. Streamline my business, including running it more efficiently, hiring an administrative person and writing a more specific training program for my staff.

(I know it says 10 things, but I’m ambitious)

11. Travel somewhere for a vacation that I have not been.

12. Go on a girls trip.

13. Teach line dancing or fitness classes.

14. Take dancing lessons.

15. Open another office location or get a single larger space.

16. Do something physically adventurous. (indoor skydiving, zip lining, run a half marathon…)

17. Get a tattoo.

18. Speak on panels, write articles, etc. Become an expert.


Leap List Things I Accomplished in 2014:

1. Taught line dancing for Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. Arlington Alumnae Chapter.

2. 80’s Costume party for my 42nd birthday.

3. Spoke to a group about my business.  4 times at MBHPN.

4. Streamlined my business.

5. Dyed my hair.

What’s on your leap list?  I would love to read about what other people are thinking of doing before their next milestone.  Post it here on our blog or on our Facebook page.  I think this is an awesome discussion topic to start off the year! Check out a visual of my list, probably more than what’s on here on my Pinterest board here.

Family First Counseling Cyber Monday 2014


We realize that our clients can obtain discounted counseling sessions from their church or other organizations.  We also realize that many people do not seek counseling because of the prices.  To help decrease that cost we offer different rates for our counselors to meet every budget.  In addition to our already reasonable rates from time to time we like to offer promotions like this one today!

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We always offer a free 15-minute initial telephone consultation and an initial 30 minute face to face consultation that you can schedule here

 Family First Counseling Cyber Monday 2014:

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Do you want to jumpstart the new year in a better marriage?
Do you want to stop dreading each holiday with your family?
Do you want to decrease depression and improve your life and your relationship with God?
Want to stop pretending to be happily married and actually be happily married?

For many of us the holiday season is the happiest time of year.  We get excited about seeing our family and eating all the good food throughout the season.  But not everyone experiences happiness or peace during the holiday season.  Many have suffered significant losses or may be experiencing problems in their marriage or family.  During the holidays consider giving the gift of counseling as the gift that keeps on giving.  Give it to yourself, your marriage, your family, a friend or a loved one.

Take advantage of our Cyber Monday 2014 promotion:

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We are professional counselors in various stages of experience. We work with clients to improve their lives, coping skills and relationships. Our counselors utilize various counseling techniques based on the issues presented by each clients. It is our goal to help you succeed in your journey towards improved relationships and greater peace in mind, body and spirit.

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