10 Laws of Boundaries
Many people come in with issues dealing with boundaries. Boundaries effect every aspect of our lives and often determine how other’s treat us. Here are the Ten Laws of Boundaries according to Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend in their Boundaries Workbook: The Law of Sowing and Reaping (this law of cause and effect […]
Starting a Conversation Without it Turning into an Argument
These are some pointers on starting a conversation with your spouse about something you’re not satisfied with. This a conversation that often goes the wrong way because of how it was started. Your best choice is start off simple and offer a suggestion that may be a solution. Remember your tone! Use praise to even […]
MARRIED OR NOT*** You Should Read This….
When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I […]
Relationship Pitfall #5
You are passive-aggressive. You don’t ask for what you want and get pissed off when your mate can’t read your mind. You pretend you don’t have an issue when your mate asks for a behavior change.
Relationship Pitfall #4
You are on the attack. You yell, put your finger in their face and talk in a condesending way to your partner. You constantly insult them. All of you comments start with “you…”
Relationship Pitfall #3
It’s your way or the highway: You don’t listen to your partner. When they speak in public you demean or interrupt them. Telling your family and friends how much you put up with and how wrong your partner is.
Relationship Pitfall #2
You continously look for something wrong. Telling your partner you “always” or “never.” You often try to get them to admit when they are wrong but you are never wrong.
Build Up Your Spouse
Make it your mission to build up your spouse for the next 30 days. Write a list of 30 positive things you can say to encourage him or her. Do this until it becomes a habit.