Is it okay to withhold information from a close friend? Some would say; it depends on the situation. There are some that would answer; maybe. Others would say; absolutely not! What if the situation involved you knowing something about a close friend or family member’s relationship? Here is the scenario; you were close friends with a couple. The husband was your close friend but over a period of time, you also became good friends with the wife. You found out that the wife was cheating on the husband and has been for quite sometime. She has even made several attempts to be with you! However, your respected yourself and your close friend’s relationship enough to turn her down. The close friend is constantly telling you how much he loves and adore his wife. You witness him on numerous occasions shopping for her and always looking for ways to keep her happy. When you see him going out his way and constantly praising her, it makes you just want to put her on blast!!!! What would you do? What do you do? Do you reveal what you know to the husband/close friend? Or do you keep it to yourself?
After giving this scenario some thought, I come to the conclusion that there is no simple or easy answer to these questions. Situations as the above example require an ample amount of precautionary measures. You really have to judge for yourself how much you should or should not get involved. One false move could cause more harm than good. There is however, one absolute recommendation. This is to get people involved who are experienced to handle these type situations. Most times these individuals are your counselors, therapists, pastors, etc. Remember, although your friend may need to know what is going on, it may not be a good idea for them to hear it from you! Seek help! It could very well save the relationship and moreover; your friendship!!!