Domestic violence

Domestic violence Domestic violence can be identified a pattern of behavior in any relationship that is utilized to maintain or obtain authority and power over an individual. Domestic abuse can be sexual, physical, psychological, emotional, financial, threats or actions of actions that influence another individual. Like any other situation in life, domestic abuse has stages. The stages tell how and why victims continue to be with their abuser and live in the same house with them. Victims might experience physical harm such as broken bones or bruises. They might experience hopelessness, nervousness or social seclusion.

The Tension-Building Stage

This is the initial stage; the abuser gets mad with ease. Frequently abusers vocally hassle their significant other throughout this stage. It may look as if the abuser is starting a fight with their partner. Arguments may become uncontrollable. The abuser might segregate their partner from family and friends. The victim starts to feel that something will occur but does not know when it will happen or what will set the abuser off. The abuser accuses the victim for the abuse and their troubles. To stay out of harm’s way the victim might pullback in order not to make the abuser mad all over again. The abuser may gradually become more envious & vocally abusive.

Once Again, He is the Reason for the Season!!!

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For God so loved the world, that he gave His only begotten Son, and who ever believes in Him, should not perish, but have everlasting life (John 3:16).  For Christians, this season is a time to reflect on what Christ Jesus did on the cross.  He surrendered His life in that we may have life and life more abundantly.  What a love! Can you even imagine this kind of love?  There was so much that was done for us on the cross.  For one, our sins have been forgiven.  That’s right, He was the final atonement and sacrifice for our sins.  So now when we do sin, and we will; we cannot be condemned for it (Romans 8:1).  So don’t let people make you feel bad when you make mistakes in your life.  This is just one of the many benefits that have been awarded to us.  So don’t just celebrate this weekend, celebrate His life and the life that was given to you for the rest of your life! Christ is, was and will always be the reason for the season!

Because He Lives!!!

For many during special occasions/holidays we look forward to the “giving” including Easter. As adults we look forward to the long weekend and  kids look forward to Easter egg hunts and other treats. Let’s not forget the shopping for new dress attire for church. But are we missing the true meaning of Easter? For the past forty-two days, my family and I have been reflecting on our personal relationship with God. In doing this we each gave up something we normally use daily. During the time when we would normally use these materialistic things, we had one on one time with God as well as family time with God. As a Christian for me Easter is a time to acknowledge how much God loves each of us. He sent His only Son to save us from our sins. Jesus walked this Earth in human form, and unselfishly gave his life so that we may be saved. The Amazing part, three days later He rose and lives and dwells within anyone willing to acknowledge and accept Him within your heart!!! Easter is about a fresh start and it is never to late with God on your side to have a fresh start!!!

Happy Easter to you all!!!

I’m so glad He Lives!!!

An Easter Meaning

An Easter MeaningOne of the most important events in Christianity is the death and later the resurrection of Jesus Christ. Good Friday occurs on the Friday before Easter. The day commemorates the Crucifixion of Jesus. Some people believe it to be a day of sorrow and mourning. Others believe it to be a day of celebration of what’s to come.  For me it’s a day of family time and thankfulness and a celebration of what’s to come; the resurrection. Last year and this year we decided to do something different. The older generation in our family usually plan out a morning of church, then a gathering a someone’s house for  Easter lunch and dinner, spending time with family and friends, and having an Easter egg hunt for the kids. Now my generation decided to have something at the lake, simple foods, filled with laughter and good times with the family, and of course we will not forget the Easter egg hunt.

What does Good Friday and Easter mean to you? How do you and your family Easter?

Cheap and Free Date Night Ideas!


Much has been said on this blog and others about the importance of spending quality time with your partner. But dinner and a movie can get expensive, especially if you also have to pay a sitter. Following is a list of free and cheap date night ideas.

Drive around looking for your dream house together. Better yet, take in several open houses and compare what each of you want in a home.

Find a friend that the both of you know who needs a break, and offer to babysit, dog walk or tend to their garden for a few hours while they put their feet up and relax.

Have a yard sale. Clean out one (or both) of your places, and post signs in the neighborhood to advertise the event.

Find somewhere to go skinny dipping together.

Create a fill in the blank Q&A sheet for the other to answer and explain. Questions could include: “My favorite thing about you is _____.” “I knew I loved you when ____.” “It makes me laugh when you _____.”

Enter contests together for a day. Some may require an essay or skill testing question, so enjoy crafting or figuring them out together. Or, find contests whose potential wins could be enjoyed together.

Visit the Chamber of Commerce or Visitors Center for your area or a nearby location. Ask for a free walking tour map, and set off to explore an area neither of you know well already.

Find a local artisan or manufacturer that offers free tours with a sample at the end of the presentation, such as a candy maker or winery.

Go people watching together. Find a busy place and sit down with the intent of creating stories about the folks you see. Who’s on a date, and where are they rushing off to?


Forgiveness One reason we resist forgiving is that we do not really understand what forgiveness is or how it works. We think we do, but we don’t. Most of us assume that if we forgive our offenders, they are let off the hook. We also may think that we have to be friendly with them again, or go back to the old relationship. While God commands us to forgive others, he never told us to keep trusting those who violated our trust or even to like being around those who hurt us. The first step to understanding forgiveness is learning what it is and is not. The next step is giving yourself permission to forgive and forget, letting go of the bitterness while remembering very clearly your rights to healthy boundaries. Though forgiveness can help repair a damaged relationship, it does not obligate you to reconcile with the person who harmed you. When you forgive, you do not gloss over or deny the seriousness of an offense against you. Forgiveness brings the forgiver peace of mind and frees him or her from corrosive anger. Forgiveness is a process, not an event. It might take some time to work through our emotional problems before we can truly forgive. As soon as we can, we should decide to forgive, but it probably is not going to happen right after a tragic event.