I was talking with a couple of my girlfriends a few weeks back……(two single…one divorced the other never married) and two married. The topic for most of this conversation was dating and how to find a “good man.” They turn to me, since I have been married for almost two decades, (yep the longest in this group) for answers/suggestions. Naturally, I gave the answer I always give…..love takes time and the more you try to rush it the longer it takes…..unless of course you are willing to SETTLE!!! And of course I got the answer I always get…”that’s easy for you to say…you’re married to a good man.” I’ve been married 19 years and am secure in my relationship with my husband. My husband and I met at school and were friends first and it gradually turned into love. Another married friend met her husband via an online dating site. Both of my single friends are dating people they met online. All three think online dating is the best thing ever. Basically, what I get from the conversation is that my friends are lazy and do not want to do the work!!! They want to weed out the bad per a computer based on questionnaire. What if the incompatible one is “the one?” Call me old fashion but if you limit your options aren’t you still settling? Online dating maybe the easier way but that does not necessarily make it better. What do you think?