What does the Bible say? Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge (Hebrews 13:4). Fornicators refer to individuals that are having a sexual relationship but are not married. This includes those who live together and have sex. God says no because he doesn’t want his children to hurt themselves. He is not saying no with the desire to punish you. He says no for your good and for the good of your relationship. How great is it that God loves you so much that he refuses to be indifferent to your present condition!