Proverbs 18:21 says that death and life are in the power of the tongue. What does this mean? It means that the words we speak over ourselves and others have a huge impact. When you call your child and spouse stupid you start to believe those words. You also plant those negative toxic words in them leading them to believe that they are stupid. The same goes when you tell your child or spouse that they are a great parent or child. You start to value them because you believe what you are saying. You also plant life in them by making them feel that they are valued and loved. What kind of impact are you leaving on your spouse or your children or even yourself? Even during an argument you have control. Just because your spouse or someone else is picking a fight with you doesn’t mean you have to respond by striking back. In this situation the power rests with the responder. Proverbs 15:1 states that a gentle answer turns away wrath, but harsh words stir up anger. I challenge you to reframe the way you communicate with your spouse, children, and others. Reframe the way you think or even speak about yourself. Research has also confirmed that negative or positive thoughts and words have a huge impact. Please watch the short 4 minute video on this amazing experiment.