Does your wife nag? Is she controlling? Can she be a drama queen? Is she constantly complaining? Does she forget to complement you, and is she always looking for excuses not to have sex? Husbands here are tools for you to have a new better improved wife: Are you ready to take on the challenge it takes for that to happen?
Your wife’s greatest need is security. She needs to know that she is safe and provided for. It is very important for her to know that you will sacrifice a hobby, an interest, or even friends to make sure her needs are met. By being secure she will let go of being overly controlling.
You have to show empathy. Your wife nags because you are not sensitive to her needs. If you are not sensitive to her needs she will not feel romantic, and that is when you get the excuses. A woman wants her feelings to be understood and validated. You can do this by listening to her without offering solutions or unsolicited advice. Attempt to understand her point of view. Do not go into the fix-it mode. Show her affection so she can feel loved and needed. Turning your wife on starts way before the lights go off.
In addition to empathy please show your wife non-sexual affection. Communicate to your wife that she is more then a sex object for you by holding her from time to time. She needs this. No excuse about how you are just not affectionate and she needs to love you the way you are. You need to change if you want to see a changed wife.
Reckless spending has no place in marriage. I think it is important to discuss all important financial purchases with your spouse. There has to be shared leadership.
Let your wife know that you appreciate her, her work and her mothering. This will make her feel secure. Praise her in public, be her biggest fan. Never criticize her in front of others.
Being faithful to her will build protective walls in your relationship. Do not spend your physical and emotional energy on other women (especially women you consider “just friends”), but guard your marriage by not allowing other people to enter in to your relationship. This will let your wife know that she can be completely vulnerable to you with her heart.
Be a man that comes through on his word. Do the things you tell her you will do, and also show up when you tell her you will show up. Be dependable.
When a husband makes his wife feel secure by offering affection and communication he meets some of her biggest needs. This goes a long way toward loving your wife the way Jesus loves the Church. Ephesians 5:25 says that husbands should love their wives just as Christ loved the Church and gave himself up for her. This takes work, but God’s standard is for husbands to give your life to your wife. When you love your wife more than you love yourself God will bless you. When you love her more then yourself, and you sacrifice and strive to meet her needs you will see a huge improvement in your wife. I read somewhere that WHEN YOU MAKE YOUR WIFE FEEL SECURE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP SHE WILL MOVE MOUNTAINS FOR YOU.
You have tools to have a new wife. Are you ready to take on the challenge it takes for that to happen?