Disagreements over the division of labor in a marriage can cause some major problems. I myself am a young newly-wed (going on 3 years of marriage) and this particular issue is something that I have had to work on as well. Sometimes in a marriage one person feels like they are doing so much more than the other and it can be frustrating. One person may be keeping a tally of who took out the trash last, who did the dishes last, who did the laundry last, or who cleaned the bathroom last. Oftentimes, the other spouse is completely unaware of the score he or she is up against! When one person is feeling like they are carrying the burden of the household chores it can lead to anger and resentment. The best way to handle the situation is to have an open and calm conversation about it. Don’t assume your spouse can read your mind! Make a list of what needs to be done around the house from mowing the yard and changing the oil in the car to doing the laundry and feeding the dog. Once you have made a list, come to a mutual agreement about how to handle the division of labor – whether it is to alternate doing the task or dividing the tasks up equally. This way you can avoid a lot of arguments, you are both contributing, and you are both feeling appreciated.