11 Secrets to a Great Marriage
1. Commitment is the glue of marriage. Insulate and protect your marriage against emotional infidelity by avoiding friendships with members of the opposite sex. 2. Minimal codependence is necessary in a great marriage. A husband and wife must need each other. 3. Spouses need clear, realistic goals and a specific plan of how to achieve […]
Little Things Mean a Lot
When you first met one another, it was like the fourth of July. The fireworks were going off inside both of you. You were so attracted to each other. He thought you were the most beautiful woman he has ever laid eyes on. She thought you were the most handsome man on the face of […]
No Spouse is Perfect
Successful marriages are those in which spouses grow together despite their shortcomings, care for each other including flaws and differences, and nurture their respective strengths to hold on to the good and minimize the bad in their relationships. What were the good qualities that drew you to each other? What flaws in your relationship or […]
“Orange” You Glad We Are Family?
“If the family were a fruit, it would be an orange, a circle of sections, held together but separable – each segment distinct.” – Letty Cottin Pogrebin Knock, knock. Who’s There? Your family! You and your family sit down for the first time with a family therapist. Some feelings you may experience are nervousness, anxiety, […]
Should I Get Divorced? Relationship IQ Quiz
Awesome quiz from Divorce Busting by Michele Weiner-Davis. Having marriage problems? Are you considering divorce? Well, it?s time you put your assumptions about marriage issues to the test! Take the Relationship IQ Quiz and find out what makes a healthy marriage, what causes divorce, and what most people do after infidelity occurs. If you?re looking […]
What We Want vs. What We Need
What We Want versus What We Need? In an ideal world we would satisfy our search for a significant other, with someone who fulfills all of our wants and needs. This would be our Mr. or Ms. Right. Does such a person exist? Are our standards set to high that no one will ever be […]
3 Types of Rituals in Marriage
Rituals in marriage are the things that happen often, are planned together and special mostly to you and your spouse. Read the Rituals in Marriage post in this series to get more details. Almost anything can be turned into a ritual of connection, if the focus is on the relationship. If just one person likes […]
Rituals in Marriage: Why They Are Important for Your Marriage
Before anyone thinks I’m losing it let me start out by giving a definition of rituals (no chicken feathers on an altar!). Rituals in marriage are the things that happen often, are planned together and special mostly to you and your spouse. They may happen every year or they may happen every day. Because they […]