I listened to this message by Pastor Paul Washer and wanted to share it with you. It will challenge you to rethink why you are married and to reflect if your actions are glorifying God. Please comment what you were challenged with.
One September morning in the year of 2002, I suffered a great tragedy in my life. I lost my mother. My mother was more to me than a parent, she was my best friend. I can remember throughout my childhood how she loved and protected me. If I wanted something in life and didn’t know how to get it, I would go to her. If she could not tell me how to go about getting it, most times she would get it for me. I guess you’re thinking I was spoiled? I was!!! It was not a rotten spoiled. It was a loving spoiled. Although I pretty much got what I wanted, I still recognized the boundaries and dared not to cross them. You see my mother was an anointed and powerful woman of God! She was God’s prophet. When she spoke, you can rest assured that I listened and always tried to obey. This woman taught me many things.
Of the many things, there is one thing I will never forget. I’ll never forget the power of prayer! My mother lived a life of prayer. She would wake up praying. She would pray while she was going about her daily routines. She would go to bed praying. I never really understood why she would pray and talk to God so much. However; now that I am older and much more mature, I completely understand why she prayed the way she did. Prayer is direct communication with God. It is through prayer that we build our relationship with Christ, Holy Spirit, and God. In other words, we have to talk to Him daily. There has to be a dialogue. The more you communicate with Him, the more intimate your relationship with him becomes. My mother had built a close, intimate relationship with God. I now understand how she was able to continue with life, even when life was seemingly winning. It was prayer that helped her through and it is prayer that can help you through. What am I saying? I am saying that God is waiting on you to make the first move. Reach out to Him! Talk to Him! Spend time with Him! PRAY!!!! Stop worrying so much and pray. Philippians 4:6 tells us; to be careful for nothing; but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let you requests be made known unto God. In other words, pray about everything and worry about nothing. Your prayers are powerful. Your prayers can move mountains or obstacles in your life (Matthew 17:20).
Do yourself a favor and start praying. God wants to be included in every aspect of your life. He wants to be included in your marriage, with your children, on your job, in your health, in your relationships, etc. He just wants you. So start today and do as my mother taught me; PRAY!!!
I have been married for 14 years come November 27th of this year. I love my wife and I love my marriage. However, it has not always been “smooth sailing.” In other words, it has not always been easy. Marriage is work! It will only work if the two individuals put in work. I must say that my wife and I each give 100 percent plus to ensure that our marriage is successful. It may sound like a lot but its actually not. Along with our Christian faith, we discovered a technique that makes being married easy. This technique is nothing new. It has actually always been available. It is called “submission.” You see, in order for a marriage to be successful, both people have to be willing to submit to one another in the fear of God (Ephesians 5:21). It is not just one person submitting, but both. Well what is submission? Submission is not just doing for one another. It is actually doing for one another what you really don’t want to but… you do it because it is the right thing to do. The bible teaches us many things. One of the most profound things that it teaches is the power of submission. If we submit first to God, then to our marriage, and even to certain situations, we will find out that not only will our marriage become better, but life in general will become better. Don’t get me wrong. Submission is not an easy thing to do. However, it is attainable. Start today and make submission in your marriage your will. Decide that you are going to submit. After all, what do you have to lose, besides your marriage… Selah.
I am not one to follow traditions, however; there are some traditions that I will give in to. For example; “Father’s Day.” This is a time where the fathers are celebrated. I am not talking about the “dead beats.” I am talking about the “real deal” fathers. I am talking about the men who are after God’s own heart. Who are these men? How do we recognize them? Well according to biblical principles; fathers are “just men” that walk in integrity which enables his children to be blessed (Proverbs 20:7). He does not provoke his children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord (Ephesians 6:4). If something was to happen to him and he departs the face of this earth, he makes sure that there is an inheritance left for his children (Proverbs 13:22). He is a provider for his home. No one in his home will lack for nothing. 1 Timothy 5:8 says that if he provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel. If he is married; he will always set the example of how a man should treat his wife. He will love his wife as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:25). He will not be bitter towards his wife (Colossians 3:19), but rather treat her with honor and respect. He will never hurt her because he knows that her body is as his very own body (Ephesians 5:28).
Any man or father who lives by the above principles deserves to be praised! So if you have a man of this statue in your household, hold on to him and celebrate him! Don’t just celebrate him during father’s day season, but celebrate him always… for he is definitely a man after God’s own heart!
Twelve years ago I unexpectedly lost my mother. Outside of my wife, she was my best friend. We had a relationship that was inseparable. There was always a special love for her, but most of all I had a great level of respect for her. Whenever I needed advice, help, money, etc, she was always there for me. There was nothing in this world that I would not do for her. When she departed the face of this earth I was saddened so deeply. Mostly because I would never physically see her again. I noticed how others were deeply grieved by her sudden death as well. Some were saddened for the same reason I was. However, some were saddened because of guilt. Where did the guilt come from? Maybe it came from not spending enough time with her while she was living. Or maybe it came from an undelivered apology. Or maybe the guilt came from blatant mistreatment. Maybe you failed to fulfill a promised obligation. Who knows the reason?
Guess what? You have been given a second chance. You can’t turn back the hands of time, however; you do have the chance to pour that love into someone else. For example; give you self completely to your spouse by loving and cherishing them with unconditional love. Be loyal to your friends and co-workers. Give to your neighbor when you have the means to do so. Life is too precious. Do not take for granted that everyone you are attached to will be there the next morning you awake to start your day. Stop all the madness! Get rid of the drama! You may say that it is not that easy. And you may be right. But remember, easy or not; you still have the power to do the right thing f you so desire. It is merely a decision. Go ahead and make a sound decision to do that right thing. So when an episode of death hits close to your home, you will not experience any unnecessary guilt.
For God so loved the world, that he gave His only begotten Son, and who ever believes in Him, should not perish, but have everlasting life (John 3:16). For Christians, this season is a time to reflect on what Christ Jesus did on the cross. He surrendered His life in that we may have life and life more abundantly. What a love! Can you even imagine this kind of love? There was so much that was done for us on the cross. For one, our sins have been forgiven. That’s right, He was the final atonement and sacrifice for our sins. So now when we do sin, and we will; we cannot be condemned for it (Romans 8:1). So don’t let people make you feel bad when you make mistakes in your life. This is just one of the many benefits that have been awarded to us. So don’t just celebrate this weekend, celebrate His life and the life that was given to you for the rest of your life! Christ is, was and will always be the reason for the season!