Siblings fight, so don’t assume all family arguments are the result of living in a blended family.
Don’t play favorites. Be fair. Don’t overcompensate by favoring your stepchildren. This is a common mistake, made with best intentions, in an attempt to avoid indulging your biological children.
Have family meetings. Be sure to discuss everything. Never keep emotions bottled up or hold grudges.
Give each person a special place. If some of the kids “just visit,” make sure they have a locked cupboard for their personal things. Bringing toothbrushes and other “standard fare” each time they come to your home makes them feel like a visitor, not a member of the blended family.
Build a support network. Locate a step-parenting support organization in your community. You can learn how other blended families address some of the challenges of blended families.
Spend intentional time with each child. Try to spend at least one “quiet time” period with your child (or children) daily. Even in the best of blended families, children still need to enjoy some “alone time” with each parent.
Follow the link below to listen to Megan Lee’s discussion on Radio Therapy with Terance J. (this link will not work in all browsers)