February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness and Prevention month. According to loveisrespect.org 1 in 3 teens has experienced physical, sexual, emotional or verbal abuse from a dating partner. If you are a parent of a teen or you’re a teenager yourself follow my blog posts this month as I share important information about dating violence.
When we think of abuse the first things that come to mind are black eyes and bruises. However physical violence is not the only form of abuse that occurs in relationships. Emotional and verbal abuse is often equally damaging to a person and occurs more frequently. The victim in the situation will often question, “Is this really abuse?” because there are no scars. Check this list to see if you or someone you know may be experiencing emotional or verbal abuse.
Some behaviors that qualify as emotional or verbal abuse by a partner:
- -Name calling and put downs
- -Screaming and yelling at you
- -Isolation, keeping you from family and friends
- -Controlling your behavior ( i.e. what you wear, where you can go)
- -Requiring constant check ins through phone call, texts, or other means
- -Blaming you for their abusive behavior or words (“you made me do this”)
- -Threatening to commit suicide or harm themselves if you break up with them
- -Monitoring and controlling your use of the phone, computer, etc..
- -Using threats to expose your personal secrets in an attempt to control you
- -Starting rumors about you, including on social media
If you think you or someone you know is experiencing emotional/verbal abuse please reach out for help. The counselors here at Family First Counseling are ready to help.
For more information on teen dating violence or to find help in your local area check out www.loveisrespect.org