Insecure/insecure couples have very high divorce rates due to high levels of conflict and anxiety. Insecure spouses are rigid and unable to cope with change when distressing events or change occurs they are left paralyzed and feeling vulnerable and anxious.
Although challenging for the secure partner they are usually able to create a form of balance. The insecure spouse is often rigid and inflexible but the secure spouse is able to be flexible and move with the will or needs of the insecure partner. This may only last a limited amount of time, as the secure spouse may tire of the constant maintenance of the relationship.
Your attachment style does not have to determine a negative path in your marriage. Counseling, awareness and a strong accountability network can change your marriage’s attachment dynamics. Challenge your insecurities and fears, develop a better marriage.
How does your attachment style affect your marriage? Does this information lead you to change something for the better in your marriage? We want to hear from you.
Megan, a native of Kansas City, Kansas, is the wife of Malik, and mother of Ayanna, Jonathan and Isiah. She actively encourages her children’s higher education and community involvement. Megan is a Christian and active in the marriage ministry at her church Cornerstone Baptist Church, in Arlington, TX. Megan is the co-founder of the Minority Behavioral Health Provider Networking Group along with colleague Cynthia Thompson.