Boundary Conflicts and Your Family
A common problem arises when returning home for a visit with your family as an adult. Even someone who is been on their own for several years can be manipulated into guilt by their parents. People who own their own lives do not feel guilty when they make good choices for themselves. They take other […]
Common Myths About Boundaries
Many people come in with issues dealing with boundaries. Boundaries affect every aspect of our lives and often determine how other’s treat us. Here are some common Boundary Myths according to Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend in their Boundaries Workbook: If I Set Boundaries, I’m Being Selfish (selfishness actually has to do with […]
10 Laws of Boundaries
Many people come in with issues dealing with boundaries. Boundaries effect every aspect of our lives and often determine how other’s treat us. Here are the Ten Laws of Boundaries according to Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend in their Boundaries Workbook: The Law of Sowing and Reaping (this law of cause and effect […]
Starting a Conversation Without it Turning into an Argument
These are some pointers on starting a conversation with your spouse about something you’re not satisfied with. This a conversation that often goes the wrong way because of how it was started. Your best choice is start off simple and offer a suggestion that may be a solution. Remember your tone! Use praise to even […]
MARRIED OR NOT*** You Should Read This….
When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I […]
Relationship Pitfall #5
You are passive-aggressive. You don’t ask for what you want and get pissed off when your mate can’t read your mind. You pretend you don’t have an issue when your mate asks for a behavior change.
Relationship Pitfall #4
You are on the attack. You yell, put your finger in their face and talk in a condesending way to your partner. You constantly insult them. All of you comments start with “you…”
Relationship Pitfall #3
It’s your way or the highway: You don’t listen to your partner. When they speak in public you demean or interrupt them. Telling your family and friends how much you put up with and how wrong your partner is.