In a matter of seconds, our life can go from sunny and happy to cloudy and sad. No one likes raining days, but without them we would not have green grass and beautiful flowers. How can we keep our forecast sunny?
Just as it is impossible to predict the weather, it is just has hard to predict the future for our lives. Only GOD knows our forecast. When things doesn’t go they way we plan, we must remain faithful to know that GOD is in control. Take time to know the voice of GOD. He will talk to you and advised you on how your life should go. Many of us have had a lot of heartache and heartbreak and feel that GOD has forgotten us, but this is not true. GOD will never give you more than you can handle. It is impossible to know why GOD would take love ones away, allow us to have a hard upbringing or so many obstacles to overcome, but we must know that for every setback is a setup for something great.
So if your forecast is looking cloudy and unpredictable, know that the rain is needed in order for us to grow and blossom. Continue to walk in faith and watch how bright GOD will allow your forecast to become.
Recently I learned about four parenting styles. I want to share them with you so you can reflect on how your parenting approach may be contributing to the problem of getting your child to obey. First I want to start off with the permissive parent. If you fit in the category you are a parent that offers lots of love but not much discipline. This can cause your child to have very low self esteem. When there are no boundaries your child feel inferior and insecure. Your child will feel loved but they are unsure of their limits.
The neglectful parent is the worst of all four. This type of parent does not offer much love or discipline leading the child to grow up with deep emotional scars. The authoritarian parent does not express much love but is very big on discipline. Children to these parents grow up rebellious. The last parenting style is the authoritative parent. This type of style provides the best combination of love and discipline. Their boundaries are clear and they are also very loving. This child grows up with great self-esteem and has great coping skill.
Where do you fit with these parenting styles? If you find yourself in one that you are not proud of please give us a call. We would love to work with you and your family to get you learn how to be an authoritative parent.
Lent is a time for prayer, penance, sacrifice and good works that lead up to Easter. Lent starts with Ash Wednesday and continues for 40 days and 40 nights, not including Sundays. The observance of Lent varies from people abstaining from eating meat to giving up a daily “unhealthy” activity. What I have chosen to fore go this Lent season is complaining.
I’ve never been one to complain in abundance, but I know that I have in the past. I wanted to challenge myself to remain positive for these 40 days and 40 nights, without a complaint. To monitor my complaints, I have asked my support system (family, friends and co-workers) to inform me when I make a complaint. I have a roll of quarters and a “complaint jar” set up for if I am caught complaining, I have to drop a quarter into the jar. To counteract that complaint, I will correct the wrong by stating 10 positive affirmations. I have yet to decide what to do with the change that wounds up in the jar, but I’m pretty sure it would go to a great cause. Overall, I am preparing myself to be closer to the Lord by monitoring my words.
“Do everything without grumbling or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure, ‘children of God without fault in a warped and crooked generation.’ Then you will shine among them like stars in the sky” – Philippians 2:14-15
So, what have you decided to give up in order to be faithful and closer to God?
I recently reviewed the book How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie to refresh my memory on how to approach people in a way that is not offensive even if they are in the wrong “in my opinion”. Bottom line, as much as I feel I have been offended by others, I am most likely offending someone in like manner. I believe there is freedom in acknowledging the truth. Energy spent in defensive or offensive mode when it comes to human relations is futile.
We are in the second month of the new year. Are you still on the path to being healthy? How do you define healthy? Healthy can mean different things to different people. It can mean being physically, emotionally, spiritually or even sexually well. We have all may new years resolutions of getting our lives back on track or finally in the direction that we are proud of. Whatever path you chose for the new year, stay on it. Continue to pray and fast and allow God to work on your behalf.
Proverbs 18:21 says that death and life are in the power of the tongue. What does this mean? It means that the words we speak over ourselves and others have a huge impact. When you call your child and spouse stupid you start to believe those words. You also plant those negative toxic words in them leading them to believe that they are stupid. The same goes when you tell your child or spouse that they are a great parent or child. You start to value them because you believe what you are saying. You also plant life in them by making them feel that they are valued and loved. What kind of impact are you leaving on your spouse or your children or even yourself? Even during an argument you have control. Just because your spouse or someone else is picking a fight with you doesn’t mean you have to respond by striking back. In this situation the power rests with the responder. Proverbs 15:1 states that a gentle answer turns away wrath, but harsh words stir up anger. I challenge you to reframe the way you communicate with your spouse, children, and others. Reframe the way you think or even speak about yourself. Research has also confirmed that negative or positive thoughts and words have a huge impact. Please watch the short 4 minute video on this amazing experiment.