Sad, Maybe Mad, But not Bad!

Depression is often confused with being only sadness, worthlessness, hopelessness, tearfulness, and emptiness. However, with children and teens depression has many faces. Children and adolescents who cause problems at home or school are often defiant to the rules, argumentative with parents and teachers, hostile towards siblings and peers, skipping classes, running away from home, engaging in risky behavior, and making poor decisions. As adults we tend to concentrate on fixing the “bad” behavior and end up making many negative statements and judgments, and giving ultimatums. But if we take the time to listen, often times we will find that there may be simply anger and sadness underneath all the “bad” behavior. We need to resist the urge to lecture or criticize. It’s easy to tell them to just stop it, but when we do they feel like we just don’t get it, and then we discredit ourselves. Depression can be very dangerous if untreated. So if you see these warning signs, now you can focus on taking positive steps to help them. Contact us so we can help you help them.

Chronic Pain

Managing Chronic Pain

Managing Chronic Pain

If you are dealing with chronic pain, it is important to recognize the connection between your thoughts and emotions in reaction to the pain.  The gate control theory of pain theorizes that negative emotions lead to an increase in experience of pain.  Deep breathing and visualization can provide an alternate experience from the reaction to pain.  Managing Chronic Pain Before it Manages You is a good text and workbook for anyone dealing with a life changing injury that includes inevitable pain.


Where is Your Money Going?


Do you find it hard to keep an account of your money? I remember getting paid on the 1st of the month just to become broke by the 2nd after paying all of my monthly bills. How can you manage your money and get out of debt? Money is one of the leading causes for divorces or breakups. One way to get out of debt is to STOP SPENDING!! I know it is easier said then done. The first thing you should do is to write down all of your monthly bills and expanses. Once you have done this, you will know exactly how much you have left to spend. I know most of us live check to check so there is not much left to do anything. It is important to live within your budget. If you don’t have it to spend, don’t spend it.  This too means to stop using your credit cards.  The interest rate you are charge monthly doesn’t put a dent in your over all bill.  The best way to get rid of your credit card debt is to pay the card with the largest amount off first and only use it for emergencies. An emergency is not going to the mall or to a restaurant. Also, try cutting back on your bills. Try eliminating the high cable bill and keep the basic channels. Rent movies when they come out instead of going to the movies. You can also cut back on eating out from every week to twice a month. All the little things can help with the big picture, which is to save and preserve your money. If you are still unable to budget your money, try to sit down with a financial planner or see if your church or school have a program that can help you with a financial plan.

The Joy Effect

The Joy Effect

“A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones” (Proverbs 17:22)

Joy and happiness are contagious. Laughter is medicine that  boosts your immunity, improves your mood, and relieves stress. The Bible says in Proverbs 15:30 that “A cheerful look brings joy to the heart, and good news gives health to the bones”.  I recently read somewhere that lasting joy is not a matter of what is happening around you, but what is happening inside you. This means that we need to choose to be a person of joy. This will have a very positive effect on your spouse and yourself. Where do you rate yourself on the Joy Scale? If you are not happy with your rating and want to return to happiness in your marriage, give us a call!

Tune Up


Eating healthy?  Exercising daily?  Getting a good night’s sleep?  And still feeling the same?  Music may be the trick!

Music has been the one self-care routine that I am able to maintain most effectively.  There was a time when I would listen to a particular song every single morning during a very difficult time in my life, and it really got my mind ready for the day.  Then driving home, I would listen to the song again to keep my spirits up.  I never really knew why music created healing and support, but what I did find to be true is that music was a quick fix-it or release to a broken spirit.

I recently read an article that gives us an excuse to continue to blast our music.  When listening to music or our favorite song, our brain releases Dopamine. Dopamine is the pleasure hormone.  Therefore our bodies have a physiological response when we listen to music resulting in a natural high.  Another plus to music is the hormone Oxytocin which creates bonding.  Oxytocin is released if we sing for thirty minutes.

So if you don’t have time to go to a Pilates class or can’t afford to buy organic foods, try a musical tune up – jamming in the car, singing with friends at karaoke, or just you at home listening to the sounds.  Music provides connection, healing, a good time, and reduces stress.

Stages Of Change

Stages of Change

The process of change has been studied to identify five stages according to the transtheoretical model, “TTM”.  The first stage, precontemplation allows for a person to be unaware of a need for change in their behavior.  Examining the pros and cons of continuing a behavior may inform a person towards considering a need for change.  We can think about change and educate ourselves on the consequences before making a commitment towards change.  We devote time and energy towards researching before making choices in most areas of life.  How can we be better informed about the effects of our habits and choices on our long-term health and relationships?  I would like to consider what the effect the television has had on the American culture.  I am considering making it a goal to go one month without watching television to see how my life might be different.  Anyone interested in sharing this goal with me?