You and your family sit down for the first time with a family therapist. Some feelings you may experience are nervousness, anxiety, and/or concern about what will transpire within the session. Maybe you believe that your communication skills are up to par while others within the family need to put forth more effort in understanding you. Or, maybe you require the fine tuning to be heard more from others. Either way, communication is critical to family life (Satir, 1967).
According to Virginia Satir, the “mother of family system therapy”, when communication failure occurs within the system, family members will take on one of four dysfunctional roles to cover up their vulnerabilities:~ placater ~ blamer ~ computer ~ distractor
Satir describes each role with descriptives, communication tones and a possible image of what that individual resembles.