Reflecting on the value of emotional and personal intelligence as a Christian while reading the book The Power of Personality and How it Shapes Our Lives by John D. Mayer (2014), the question came to mind: What should my motivation be for looking at my own personality or that of another, in essence “sizing up another person”. Is this what the Bible refers to as judging? If it is considered judging another to notice another’s character and habits then how do we avoid being unequally yoked? Is it wrong or arrogant to be aware of our own strengths and to want to spend time with people who share those strengths?
A local pastor made the statement at a welcome and introductory dinner for visitors of the church, “If you look around a room or table and think that you are the smartest person in the room, then something is wrong”. He is implying that the person needs to check themselves and their perception of themselves in the world around them. Why would it be wrong for a Christian to believe he/she is the smartest person in the room? I guess we could test this question by giving a group of new visitors a series of IQ tests to determine who has the highest IQ and have each person give a confidential response to who is the smartest person in the room. What if the person who has the highest IQ happens to be aware of the difference between his intellect and that of others? Is it wrong for him to have this awareness?
These questions lead me to some of the broader trends of the American culture and society concerning the value of competition and individualization. We are a society that places a high value on winning. Even if in a race, the person in second place loses by a second or fraction, they do not “win the prize”. How does this constant determination of one person being better than another set us against each other? It is my belief that the plight of competition against each other for money, power and prestige has placed us against each other. We have lost the ideal that by one person erring in life, we all are affected. Jesus said, “If you do it unto the least of these, you have done it unto me”. As Christians, we must accept each other without trying to be dominant in some way.