Marriage Makeover Moment:

I am continuing my exploration of the C.O.U.P.L.E. acronym developed by Emmerson Eggerichs to help husbands remember what God calls them to do.  You can read the total acronym on my first blog on this topic 6 Ways Husbands Can Love Their Wives.  In each post I’ll list the detailed info related to each letter of the acronym along with the scripture that backs it up.  Don’t worry guys I will follow up with 6 Ways Wives Can Respect Their Husbands.

Today’s letter is:

E – Esteem

Love her above all others.  Know what is significant to her, even if it’s not a big deal to you.

1 Peter 3:7

How To Do This: Support her verbally, especially around the kids, praise her for what she does, value her opinions even when they are different from yours.

Questions to Ask Yourself: Does my wife feel treasured?  Do I take my wife’s efforts with me and kids for granted? Do I remember that birthdays, anniversaries, Valentine’s Day, etc. are important or do I get busy and forget?

Previous: L – Loyalty – Show Your Wife Loyalty

Marriage Makeover Moment:

I am continuing my exploration of the C.O.U.P.L.E. acronym developed by Emmerson Eggerichs to help husbands remember what God calls them to do.  You can read the total acronym on my first blog on this topic 6 Ways Husbands Can Love Their Wives.  In each post I’ll list the detailed info related to each letter of the acronym along with the scripture that backs it up.  Don’t worry guys I will follow up with 6 Ways Wives Can Respect Their Husbands.

Today’s letter is:

L – Loyalty

Be completely committed to her, offer her reassurance when she needs it not information.

Malachi 2:14

How To Do This: Don’t ogle other women (in her presence or out); talk to her positively; never bring up divorce.

Questions to Ask Yourself: Do I save my admiration of women to my wife alone? Is she sure I’m a one woman man?

Next: Husbands, Build Your Wife’s Self Esteem

Previous: P – Peacemaking – Practice Peacemaking

Marriage Makeover Moment:

I am continuing my exploration of the C.O.U.P.L.E. acronym developed by Emmerson Eggerichs to help husbands remember what God calls them to do.  You can read the total acronym on my first blog on this topic 6 Ways Husbands Can Love Their Wives.  In each post I’ll list the detailed info related to each letter of the acronym along with the scripture that backs it up.  Don’t worry guys I will follow up with 6 Ways Wives Can Respect Their Husbands.

Today’s letter is:

P – Peacemaking

Resolve issues and makeup when you have conflicts, don’t hold grudges or teach them a lesson.

Matthew 19:5

How To Do This: Say you are sorry when you are wrong; accept apologies when you get them.

Questions to Ask Yourself: When my wife tells me she is hurt or angry, do I easily admit I’m wrong, or do I get defensive, and express hurt and anger myself?  Do I understand how apologizing makes her feel more connected and valued with me?  Do I avoid discussing issues by saying, “Let’s drop it, or you need to move on?”

Next: L – Loyalty – Husbands, Show Your Wife Loyalty

Previous: U – Understanding – Husbands Offer Your Wife Understanding

Marriage Makeover Moment:

I am continuing my exploration of the C.O.U.P.L.E. acronym developed by Emmerson Eggerichs to help husbands remember what God calls them to do.  You can read the total acronym on my first blog on this topic 6 Ways Husbands Can Love Their Wives.  In each post I’ll list the detailed info related to each letter of the acronym along with the scripture that backs it up.  Don’t worry guys I will follow up with 6 Ways Wives Can Respect Their Husbands.

Today’s letter is:

U – Understanding

Empathize and listen.  Don’t focus only on fixing things.

1 Peter 3:7

How To Do This: Listen, know when to give advice and when not to solve problems; repeat what she says to show you are listening.

Questions to Ask Yourself: Do I understand that talking is as important to my wife as sex is to me? Do I listen and let her talk or do I try to “fix” her or what is wrong when she doesn’t want me to? Do I see that “just talking” is the key to making her feel understood?

Next: P – Peacemaking – Husbands, Practice Peacemaking With Your Wife

Previous: O – Openness – Husbands, Be Open With Your Wife