Last week I shared a religious perspective to the 30-Day Sex Challenge. To recap, a Florida pastor challenged the married members to have sex for 30 days with their spouse and asked the single members to abstain from sex for 30 days. The purpose of the assignment is to enhance the couple’s relationship with one another as well as their union with God. Naturally, I became intrigued by this topic and did further research. I figured there are many wives who can and have come up with several reasons to not have sex and this does not even have to be daily…. long day at work, dealing with the kids, yada yada yada….. 30 days seems like a long time…especially if you are looking at this challenge as a task. Once I began to read and understand the reasoning for the challenge, my perception of it being “the task of the day” changed. How far are you willing to go to strengthen your relationship with your spouse/significant other? This week I want to share what occurred when a wife proposed this challenge to her husband. The article was written by Ryan Buxton on HuffPost Live, titled:
After a Reddit post claiming to be a spreadsheet of all the excuses a wife gave her husband to get out of sex went viral last week, HuffPost Live’s Caitlyn Becker hosted a panel of women who discussed how marriage changes intimacy. One of the panelists had quite the success story.
Megan Conley talked about her blog post called Five Reasons You Should Have Sex With Your Husband Every Day, and while she told HuffPost Live that the post’s title was “kind of facetious” because it’s more about being intimate daily than actually having sex, she said she was committed to that idea in her own marriage.
“I go and work out every single day. I go to Zumba and humiliate myself in front of 45 women every single day because I decided my body is worth it and I’d like to wear a swimsuit at some point, so why can’t I put 15 minutes a day toward my relationship?” Conley said. And her spouse was more than willing to oblige. It was this challenge that my husband very happily accepted, so we decided to do that for a month, and sometimes it was 15 minutes and sometimes it was several hours, and it was fantastic,” she said. More frequent sex improved their relationship not only physically, but emotionally was well. Conley said that when her father died in February, she and her husband’s dutiful work on their relationship allowed them to “see each other’s souls” and communicate openly to help Conley heal. “As a woman, when I saw sex as something that strengthened my relationship, it became much more interesting to me,” she said.
In this challenge, although they did not have intercourse daily, they were intimate with one another, thus strengthening their bond to one another. I ALWAYS have something to do but I agree if I can find the time to go jog three to four times a week, I can put forth a little more effort in making time for my relationship!!!